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爱的教育

圣经哥林多前书第十三章里‘爱’的定义是很多婚礼上常被引用的一段美丽的篇章,每每听到这篇章被引用时,我都常想:到底有多少新人真正把这段文字听进耳里,记在心里,应用在生活里呢?

今天参加的婚礼可能是我所参加过最有意义的一场
-虽然
没有华丽的排场,
却有大方得体的礼堂;

没有喧哗的宾客,
却是高坐满堂;

婚礼气氛
轻松幽默自然
却不失庄重,
温馨感人
却不肉麻煽情。

宾客中包括一对新人的亲朋戚友、老师、同学、同事、学生、牧师与教友等;

那段‘爱’的篇章再次被牧师引用。。。。。。 。
然而,这次我真能体会到了文章中的意义。。。。

在新人和一些宾客的分享中,我开心的感觉到这对新人是真正领悟并且已经在他们的人生中应用了‘爱的定义’

我,(我想也包括许多宾客)都被新人对上帝、对家人、对彼此、对朋友、对小辈们的爱感动了。

新郎曾经是我的学生,

今日
他与她的新娘子却都是我的老师

今日
他们为我上了宝贵的一课 :‘爱的教育’

他们是蒙福之人,因为他们懂爱。


愿他们所爱的上帝满满的祝福他们一生到永远!

1 Corinthians 13 :-4-8

Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs. Love does not delight in evil but rejoices with the truth. It always protects, always trusts, always hopes, always perseveres.
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be stilled; where there is knowledge, it will pass away.

From the files....before and after The Accident..

(all photos below courtesy from EL,my travel partner)
This was to be their last meal before the accident. Initially, having had a filling breakfast, they wanted to have a late lunch at Benzilan, three hours from Xiangelila. But having considered the fact that the driver might not be be able to withstand the hunger, we decided to have lunch before leaving Xiangelila, which turned out to be another blessing 'cos thereafter, the victims had had no proper meals till they returned to Singapore.

Every meal on this trip was to be a standard course of 8 dishes with one soup, so this was a sumptuous lunch that day with a little tibetan flavour of grilled Yak meat, yak butter tea and bread like 'ba-ba' (not in pic). We were having a good time joking and taking videos and pics of the meal before we set off from Xiangelila to Deqin via Benzilan.



My travelling partners, though senior in age, are young and cheerful at heart people and i was glad they were in good spirits when i visited them at the rehabilitation centre 2 days ago here. This was a mischievous pose about 1 and half hours just before the accident. The ground, as seen, was wet from drizzle then.



About 2hours later.....

this was where their jeep overturned. Apparently, it spun and lost control, before plunging into the ravine


You can imagine our shock when our jeep turned back to look for them and saw this. After looking anxiously,i was really relieved when i saw all the passengers by the river in the bushes. How the driver cum passengers managed to get out of the jeep is still a blank to them even up to now though they were all conscious at that time, their bones were broken (except for the driver) and the doors could not be opened. It's a guess on their part the driver broke the window glass, got out and dragged the rest out.



The travel agency staff and the local passers-by who stopped and helped....





The ladder-turned-stretcher that was borrowed by one of the passers-by who got it from a village some miles away




By the grace of God, the victims, though clearly in terrible pain and shock, were conscious throughout and not bleeding nor choked with water, neither did they get pneumonia after being in drenched clothes for almost 4-5 hours and lying by the road in cold temperature



The black jacket and some other clothes were given by the people who came to help, themselves not expecting to get the clothes back thereafter, after we' had xhausted all our own jackets and sleeping bags to try to keep the wet injured warm.


The ambulance that finally arrived after ages, some 2hours later, had brakes that didn't work and apparently the hospital sent another vehicle with a mechanic on board to 'jaga' the ambulance while they were half way transporting the patients to the hospital.


The hospital where they were transported to was supposedly the best in Xiangelila;they had no rooms available at first and some patients had to be discharged to make room for the 'foreign' patients. The 'best' hospital did not have a wheelchair available, nor blankets to cover the patients when they arrived drenched; they did not provide hospital clothings nor meals nor much assistance. Much of the service had to be self catered by the patients' family or friends. We were therefore grateful that the travel agency dispatched almost 20 of their staff to help look after the three victims throughout day and night cos just helping to turn the body of one of the victims already required 3 to 4 strong men. The nurses, if they may be called so, also doubled as cleaners and they only cleaned the rooms once a day-in the morning. At other times, the wards were strewn with rubbish (including food remnants) from visitors or even doctors and at all times the toilets in the wards were in the conditions as shown:



The neck brace here was put on one of the victims by the ambulance driver and when the victim was sent for a CT scan, across the road from the hospital, at another building, the doctors there had a big argument about who should take off the brace. Finally, they had to get the ambulance driver to take it off, and i really wondered why????(why the argument? why can't either one of them remove the brace?)




It is a known fact that 关系 or 'connections' is very important for anything to get going in China. Thanks to the boss of the travel agency who seemed to have very good connections with all the right people, the reports we required and much of our requests put across were met expeditiously. We had also visits from the local tourism board directors and the local police also rendered their help. Within short notice, they managed to get the airlines to provide and dismantle 3 seats for the lady who could not get on the SOS flight, as well as a seat for an accompanying passenger, most amazingly, the boss of the travel agency also managed to get the airport to let his men and him into the apron area to help transport the injured lady up the plane ('cos the hospital only provided 2 staff and the airport staff would not have been sufficient)


Comparatively, the red tapes over our side resulting in the delay of the approval and sending of the SOS flight was a real let down....


As the boss of the agency himself puts it, Xiangelila is really a great place to live in, everything, especially the '人情味' (close kinship bonding amongst people) is wonderful but the medical provisions there really cannot make it...pity the locals, especially when they need medical help urgently....

Pre departure blues

The following was my blog on 8/10/2008, just a few hours before i left for the Yunnan-Tibet-Sichuan-Qinghai trip. Reading it now really did seem funny, and how true it seemed that life is truly unexpected, you never know what you gonna get.......i'm truly grateful for this whole trip, for all the blessings showered unto EL and i throughout and most of all, for all the great people and precious experiences we've encountered
Blog dated 8 oct 2008 (unpublished then)
i'll be flying off in a few hours time, again to Yunnan.


It's a 26days Yunnan overland Tibet-train-Qinghai-fly Sichuan route. Not exactly what i had planned since last year but the Yunnan-Tibet sector was what i had wanted to do years ago but did not managed 'cos of costs. What made me agree to go on this 'package' this time i don't know. Could be because i had no time earlier to plan the details of my original trip, could be because of the earthquake in sichuan earlier too. In any case,i'm regretting a little already and wanted to pull out and do my own trip but it wouldn't be fair to the other 5 people coming along.
I wanted to pull out because-
-it's a group in which i only know one member and the remaining 4 have a significant age gap from us. We are gonna stay together throughout the 16days.
-It's a trip that costs much more than if i were to do on my own. In fact it's the most expensive of all my trips in these past 17 years.
-It's a fixed itinerary for the first 16days where i cannot have flexibility to change my plan, my choice of accommodation or eating place as an individual.
-It would mean i would not have the chance to come in contact with the locals which i would if i took public transport and eat in street side stalls instead.
-It would mean i would not get to stay in guest houses with flavours but get put up in characterless 'Chinese' style hotels instead
-It's gonna cost me to miss the best timing for autumn hues in Sichuan.
-Most recently, the earthquake in Tibet might mean i have to miss my beloved Lake Namtso.

so, i wasn't really feeling very 'high' about this trip

but then

i rememebered when i set off for my autumn trip last year, i had been led by what i had believed to be a vision and was really super 'high' about it. When the vision did not turn into reality during the trip, i was for a while quite upset until unexpected encounters with the wonderful people along the way and subsequent great weather became the highlights of my trip and it was one of my most unforgettable trips.

So, i have decided to take the words of erebus with me, 'once on the road, let all that is to happen, happen. Just bring along your heart'.....

yea, and leave all my qualms and expectations behind.

Life is a box of chocolates, you won't know what each taste like till you bite on it.

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