寵辱不驚

Bought a few books last November in Chengdu and havn't had time to read them all. Flipped through one yesterday, a self-helped book entitled 'Just let it go-放下就是快乐' and think it's really God's way of telling me to get out of my anger state. The book contained many anecedotes and philosophical ways of looking at life's down moments and though i've read many of similar stuff and know what i should be thinking and doing, i had wilfully refused to let myself heal accordingly.

When i turned to the page with the following story, i felt it was speaking directly at my situation and though it may not totally lift me out yet, i'll share it here as a form of self therapy and a reminder to myself. Purposely typed it all out tediously in traditional chinese so that i'll really digest the words....

The following is extracted from the book 'Just let it go' by Xiao Yue 以下摘自潇月所著的‘放下就是快乐’


唐代的時候 , 有一次 , 一艘負責運糧的船隻在途中遇到大風浪 , 糧船沉沒 , 損失了很多糧食．這次事故影響很大，於是負責管理業績考評的官員盧承慶 , 給負責運糧的官員評了個'下'. 得知此事後 , 那位官員既不爭辯 , 也沒怨恨盧承慶 , 一臉平靜地走開了.
對此 , 盧承慶很驚訝, 要知道業績評定直接影響官吏的升遷及俸祿, 以官吏的切身利益密切相關 , 而這位官員似乎并不在意. 深感奇怪的盧承慶又詳細查問了整個事情的經過 , 才知道並不是那名官員的錯 , 於是將評定改為'中'.

盧承慶將新的評定拿給那名官員, 心想:"他一定會欣喜無比."
沒想到, 那位官員依然心靜如水, 沒有絲毫興奮的表現.

"不管甚麼時侯都能做到鎮定自如,寵辱不驚," 盧承慶不由在心中讚嘆 , 這才是真正的心胸寬闊的人才!"
於是, 盧承慶又將那名官員的評定改為"上"

人生有高潮也有低潮 , 生活有苦也有樂 , 有失去也會有得到, 這是我們人生必經的過程. 所以 , 失意時, 多看看自己所得到的; 得意時, 想想失去的時候, 就會坦然而平靜.....就會懷着一顆感恩的心, 面對人生.

菜根譚里古人曰: 寵辱不驚 , 閑看庭前花開花落 ; 去留無意 , 漫隨天外雲卷雲舒.

不管得到還是失去 , 如果處之泰然, 寵辱不驚 , 那麼, 我們的人生才會充滿快樂,也才會更加成功.

But of course if i have a superior like that who bothered to find out the truth and do amendment accordingly, i might be able to achieve that '宠辱不惊' cool state too....er....doesn't sound right yeah? Actually, the moral of the whole story is : whether the truth be out or not, whether we suffered a loss or made a gain, it should not bother us at all, for all gains and losses, riches or glory are temporal, like the flowers in the gardens that bloom and wither...like the passing clouds that gather and disperse... hmmmm.....i'll try...